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>Intentional Inefficiency at Chore Time
37214 years
>So, we have this repetitive conversation at our house that goes something like this:
Children: Can we get a dog? We really want a pug.
Parents: We can get a dog when you girls show us that you are ready to take care of one. First, you have to show us that you can feed the kitties everyday withour needing 100 reminders.
Children: But Moooooooooooom! But Daaaaaaaaaaaad! We doooooooooooo.
Parents: (Laugh. Exchange knowing glances.)
Last night, my husband was on his 95th reminder to our older daughter to feed the kittens. Following her 75th, “I’ll do it in a minute” (she simply pretended not to hear the first 20 requests, as she kept her eyes glued to her lady Gaga video on the computer screen), she all of a sudden got indignant:
“Fine. I’ll do it right away. I don’t know why you have to be so impatient about it, Dad!”
She runs to the kitty dishes. We hear the pouring of the food. A lot of pouring, in fact. She runs back to the computer with an angry smile
My husband and I check out the kitty bowls. Oh, she fed them alright. The food dish overflowed with food. The water dish overflowed with instantly-soggy food. The mat underneath was covered in kibble. The cats were indeed fed. This ought to last ’em for a month!
For those counting the levels of passive aggressive behavior and keeping score, that’s 75 incidents of temporary compliance
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>I’m Gonna Teach Her How to Flick ‘Em!
41514 years
>You just never know who you’ll meet in line at Panera Bread.
So yesterday, I’m standing in line, hoping that my wiggly 5-year old daughter doesn’t knock down the cookie display, when her booty-shaking antics attract the amused attention of the man behind us. He explains that he has raised 3 daughters himself and that my little mover reminds him of his eldest.
This trip down memory lane brings him to share with me several anecdotes (it was a long lunch-rush line!) about the trouble that his first-born created over the years. From demanding money (no $1’s, Daddy!) to sneaking around with boyfriends, he laughingly recalled the struggles he went through with his lawyer-to-be eldest daughter.
Just when it was my turn to order, he shared with me the line that this Blog was waiting for:
“She has a daughter of her own now,” he smiled. “So guess who taught their grandchild how to pick her nose in public?”
He laughed with a self-satisfied grin and a classic angry smile.
As I smiled, waved and turned my back to place my order at the counter, he guffawed, “Next, I’m gonna teach her how to flick ’em!”
Sometimes, passive aggressive revenge is years in the making, but look out, girls…dad is plotting!
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>”I Don’t Have Love:” Passive Aggressive Girl Wars on The Bachelor
86714 years
>I can always rationalize my embarrassing taste in Reality TV by claiming that it’s all for “research purposes.” Afterall, I get all my best passive aggressive behavior examples from watching the likes of The Bachelor, Real Housewives, etc.
Here’s a great clip from ABC’s The Bachelor. Watch how one group of girls creates doubt in the mind of Michelle, the girl that the Bachelor has chosen for his coveted one-on-one date. Pay particular attention to the classic Angry Smile and (background cackle!) of the bearer of the bad news suggestion:
http://www.hulu.com/embed/E2ErJl80hGNYUHzOgFBehw/1855/1886
http://www.hulu.com/watch/209325/the-bachelor-week-4-part-1?c=1855:1886
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>The Real World–Washington DC: Ashley’s Angry Smile
46515 years
>Check out this clip from the January 20th, Episode 4 of MTV’s The Real World–DC. Starting at around 8:44 into the episode, Ashley and Mike get into an argument that culminates, at around 9:50, into the most classic “Angry Smile” I’ve seen in quite a while.
Note the smile on Ashley’s face and the calm that comes over her when she finds Mike’s vulnerable spot and gets him to act out the anger that had been building inside of her. Immediately after, listen to her words in the MTV “confessional” revealing her true feelings, underneath her angry smile.
http://www.mtv.com/videos/real-world-washington-dc-ep-4-the-princess-and-the-panda/1629645/playlist.jhtml