Posts tagged relational aggression
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In Friendship & Other Weapons, I feature an activity for girls based on Trudy Ludwig’s fantastic book, My Secret Bully. The book is all about how bullying can be disguised as friendship and how particularly painful this type of subtle, hidden, “I Was Just Kidding” aggression can be. My Secret Bully also offers kids great insights into how to cope with bullying effectively, from sharing experiences with trusted adults to standing up for themselves. I love it–a definite favorite!
Trudy Ludwig’s most recent book, Confessions of a Former Bully, also provides great ideas and insights for handling bullying. The following blog post, from the School Counselor Blog, talks about an activity that one school counselor has developed, based on Ludwig’s new work:
Not only is Maggie Lamond Simone a hilariously funny writer with great insights into parenting, but she’s also a redhead. What’s not to love?
Check out her great article on “Mean Girls” from the Huff Post. Apparently, she and I have more in common than just the hair; in her article and in Friendship & Other Weapons, we both write about parents helping kids cope with bullying by teaching them critical skills, such as standing up for themselves, reaching out to others who are being bullied, championing what they like about themselves, and not tolerating meanness.
“If we help our girls develop/retain their self-esteem, there’s a better chance they will be neither bully nor victim.”
Rachel Simmons did a great interview this morning on the Today Show, talking about girls & cyberbullying. Always great to hear from her…always frightening to think about the parenting perils ahead of me, raising two daughters.
I love this post by blogger Sue Scheff and agree 100% with her thought that the most effective anti-bullying programs are those that aim to teach social and emotional coping strategies for handling bullying, rather than those that rely on “zero tolerance” policies or focus exclusively on the bully. (more…)
In my little neck of the woods, we are all a-buzz with thoughts and wishes about the postcards scheduled to be mailed from our local elementary school tomorrow, letting us know who our kids’ teachers will be for the coming school year. While I have hopes for a specific teacher with a reputation for inspiring creativity and out-of-the-box thinking, what I am really wishing for most is that my daughter’s class be filled with nice kids.
The little voice inside my head nags that that expectation is too high. We are approaching the third grade year–girls are getting meaner. I hate to say it. I don’t want to give in to stereotypes. But I know it to be true. The bullying that “peaks in middle school” according to statistics, grows very strong roots in elementary school. (more…)
In her newly revised and updated book, Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls, author Rachel Simmons suggests five conversation starters for parents to use to get their daughters to open up about social media use. “Opening lines” and areas ripe for discussion include:
1. What’s your favorite thing to do online or on your phone?
2. Would your friendships be better or worse without technology? Easier or harder? (more…)
I got a great little note in my Inbox today from amazon.com: my pre-ordered copy of Rachel Simmon’s newly revised and updated edition of Odd Girl Out has been shipped! Hooray–SO looking forward to checking out the four new chapters of strategies and insights written directly for girls, their parents, and the professionals who work with them. Simmons is one of the pioneers of shining the light on the complexity, subtly, and often-unimaginable cruelty of bullying among young girls and in my book, one of the most innovative, articulate, and forward-thinking women I know. Can’t wait to read what she has to say in this new version of Odd Girl Out!
I adore author Rachel Simmons…this post from her wesbite is what Friendship & Other Weapons is all about…
Some days, I troll around on Facebook browsing at the silly, fun goings-on in the lives of my friends. Other days, I stumble upon the most interesting, powerful links. Today was a lucky day–one that makes me ask: with all of my work around girl bullying, how did I not know about this group?? Please check out the Kind Campaign and their incredible documentary film, Finding Kind: