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8 Keys to End Bullying is Available in Spanish

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Did you know that my 8 Keys to End Bullying: Strategies for Parents & Schools book is available in Spanish?   Please share with those who would find a translated version helpful in their work to bring an end to bullying:
 

Making Kindness a Part of School Culture

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This month, I’m working with my first grade students on the power of kindness and the idea that the “little,” daily things we do to reach out to others can make the biggest difference.

Making kindness a part of school culture is the most effective Bullying Prevention strategy.

#beknownforbeingkind

 

10 Rules for Kids on How to Text Respectfully

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One of the most popular workshops I offer for upper elementary and middle school students is called 10 Rules for Enjoying Life Online & Deleting Cyberbullying.  In my 45-60 minutes with students, we talk about, watch videos about, and share real life examples about how fun and engaging and USEFUL technology can be…and how to avoid reputation-damaging mishaps that can occur through texting and social media.  The students and I tend to laugh a lot but we also get real!  I think I open their eyes to some of the unanticipated long-term consequences of their online activities…and they always teach me a thing or two about a new app or game.  We all have so much to learn…

Here is a list I posted on Psychology Today of 10 Rules for Texting Respectfully that shares some of what I talk about with students and may be helpful to you as a professional or parent working or living with kids.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/passive-aggressive-diaries/201411/ten-kid-friendly-rules-texting-respect-and-dignity

 

Helping Girls Cope with Bullying

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I love it when two of my worlds collide!  Today, I received the kindest email from a woman who I had recently helped access  an LSCI online training.  She subsequently read an article I wrote about bullying among girls and sent me this note: (Shared with permission)

 

Thank you for that info, Signe.  I am able to log on from my phone and will do the training that way.
I also wanted to let you know that I just read your article in Psychology Today, “Helping Girls Cope With Bullying and Frenemies”.  What a great piece of writing! It’s so accessible and right on point.  I shared it with my staff and we’ll be discussing it during our next PLC, as we are dealing with exactly these issues in both our third and fourth grade classes.  Thank you for writing it and for sharing it-SO helpful!
With kindness and gratitude,
Laura E., M.Ed.
Behavior Specialist
Thank you, Laura, for all that you do to make a difference in the lives of young people!  You made my day.
#beknownforbeingkind

Is it Rude, Is It Mean, or Is it Bullying?

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Easily the most shared post I have ever written, here’s a link to the original article, Is it Rude, Is It Mean, or Is it Bullying?

I begin every Bullying Prevention presentation that I offer to professional, parents, and students by defining and distinguishing these very important behavioral terms and explaining that words really do matter when it comes to how we talk about the behavior of young people.  By lumping all bad behaviors into the bullying basket, we run the risk of creating a “little boy who cried wolf” phenomena and causing this incredibly important issue to lose its urgency.

Please read on and share this post with anyone you know who is struggling to figure out what is going on for their child and how best to intervene.

 

Bullying Prevention Lessons for 5th Grade

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Stopping bullying starts with teaching my 5th grade students how to recognize and differentiate types of bullying. Knowing key behaviors of each type of bullying empowers kids to understand what they are dealing with, so that they can best respond.

#8keystoendbullying

 

 

 

 

 

 

Activity instructions and extras can be found here:

 

Experts Share Tips to Stop Bullying in the Classroom

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I love to be included in this roundtable, offered through Study.com, alongside professionals like Michelle Borba and Dorothy Espelage.  Hope some of our tips can be helpful to you as well!

https://study.com/teach/20-experts-on-eradicating-bullying-from-the-classroom.html

Best Articles about Bullying Prevention Strategies for Students

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In honor of October’s National Bullying Prevention month, here are 10 of my top posts on the topic of helping bring an end to bullying.  Please share these links with professionals and parents who can use the information to support kiddos.

 

Is it Rude, Is it Mean, or Is It Bullying?

What Parents Can Do When Their Reports of Bullying are Downplayed by School

Helping Girls Cope with Bullying and Frenemies

What Parents Can Do When Their Kids’ Friendships End Badly

10 Guidelines for Stopping Cyberbullying

Why Kids Choose Not to Intervene in a Bullying Situation

What Girls Can Say and Do to Stand Up to Bullying

8 Things Kids Can Say and Do to Stop Bullying

What Adults Can Do to End Bullying

6 Simple Strategies to Stop Bullying

 

How to Stand Up to Gossip and Cruelty

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Here’s a great 2-part story, shared with permission by a friend, about her young daughter learning to use her voice to stand up to gossip and cruelty:

So, this is a story that I hope brings a chuckle to you. My youngest daughter, L, deals with and comes home with a lot of girl drama in her class and yesterday began relaying the latest. As she started, I said I didn’t want to hear anything about these girls because it’s a waste of our energy to keep spending time on their issues. While she’s never their target, they triangulate and manipulate for their own purposes and put kids like her in uncomfortable situations. She quickly stopped me, “No, mom, you need to hear how I stood up for myself. Today, _____ started saying something nasty about ____ and I said, ‘stop right there—I am NOT a part of this situation’ and _____ shrugged her shoulders and walked away”.

With that one sentence she stopped hurtful, negative energy in its tracks and sent a very clear message to a master drama queen. And she felt empowered. We applauded her and she ran out of the room with my phone. She returned with the Wonder Woman theme song blaring and dancing, showcasing her strengths as a young girl facing down mean girls and their manipulations. It’s a big thing when a child learns the power of her words, that they alone are weapons against unkindness. Proud mama moment. May we all raise wonder women.

Part 2, 4-days later:
So the girl L stopped in her tracks last week used her friendship as a weapon the next day and made L cry. I’ve been giving her scripts to say all year because of the manipulative and triangulative behavior of this girl and another. So, today, the girl said something to L, hoping to get a reaction out of her.  Eventually, L said to her, “I like friends who are respectful and show [school] pride” and the girl reacted negatively, saying “what, I’m not being respectful to you?” L responded, “well, you aren’t being very kind” to which the girl said, “well, I guess you’re not my friend anymore.”   L shrugged her shoulders and said, “OK, I’m cool with that” ………
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This is huge because L likes to be liked by everyone and it’s taken her months to be able to stand up and diffuse this girl’s intentions. I’m so very proud of her for handling it with words and am trying to show her just how effective they can be. I wanted to share in case you can use it somewhere. Each time she stands up for herself, she gets a little stronger. 
My two cents:
I happen to love every ounce of this story, but my favorite part comes at the end when my friend noted: Each time she stands up for herself, she gets a little stronger.   It is so true that each time we practice a skill, we become a little stronger and a little better at using it.  Please remind your kiddos of this–especially if they try out a new skill or strategy and it doesn’t pan out perfectly the first time.  Don’t allow them to become discouraged!  Remind them that standing up for themselves and others in respectful, effective ways is like building muscle–they may not become strong overnight, but every bit of practice in speaking up makes kids braver, stronger, and more powerful.

School-Based Bullying Prevention Programs

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What a wonderful day I spent at Immaculate Conception Cathedral School in Lake Charles, LA. yesterday! Here’s a few shots from our 5th/6th grade workshop, where the kids and I looked at key differences between rude, mean, and bullying behavior, then brainstormed helpful ways to respond to each.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thanks also to the dedicated faculty and wonderful parents with whom I also got to share practical strategies for bringing an end to bullying.

To book your school-based event, click here.  Now booking for Spring and Summer 2018.

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