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NOW AVAILABLE: Parenting the Challenging Child

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After more than three decades of helping professionals work with some of the most challenging children, the LSCI Institute now adapts its brain-based, trauma-informed, kid-centered approach to the unique needs of parents and caregivers. Parenting the Challenging Child: The 4-Step Way to Turn Problem Situations Into Learning Opportunities provides readers with:

* Specific skills for building more positive relationships with kids
* Proven strategies for de-escalating stressful situations
* A reliable 4-step framework for turning common problem situations into lasting learning opportunities

After reading this solution-focused book, you will be equipped with new skills to identify and change six problematic patterns of behavior in young people. Even more importantly, you will learn about yourself and how simple changes in the way you interact with your loved ones during a problem situation can significantly improve your relationship and their future behaviors.

PLACE YOUR ORDER TODAY!

MARCH 27th, FREE Webinar: Parenting the Challenging Child

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March 27 @ 7:00 pm7:30 pm

Learn all about Signe’s newest book, Parenting the Challenging Child: The 4-Step Way to Turn Problem Situations Into Learning Opportunities, written to bring the LSCI Institute’s brain-based, trauma-informed, relationship-building skills to parents and caregivers.

Signe will share information about:

• How to cultivate a positive relationship with your child
• Understanding how your child’s brain works during stress and conflict
• The dynamics of parent-child conflict (The LSCI Conflict Cycle™)

 

 

Register today:https://zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_kI7LNlp0TDWd8UykjzfgIw

New Training & Book: Parenting the Challenging Child

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The LSCI Institute offers training to meet the unique needs and challenges of parents and caregivers. Based on Signe’s brand new book, Parenting the Challenging Child: The 4-Step Way to Turn Problem Situations Into Learning Opportunities, the training:

  • Provides specific skills for building more positive relationships with kids
  • Teaches proven strategies for de-escalating stressful situations
  • Provides a reliable 4-step framework for turning common problem situations into lasting learning opportunities

2-hour Training for Parents & Caregivers

This course presents fundamental LSCI concepts such as the Conflict cycle™, effective listening, conflict de-escalation, and “Timeline” skills through engaging activities and discussions that are relevant and accessible to parents and caregivers.

Full-day Training Parents & Caregivers

This course includes all of the content from the 2-hour course and, in addition, identifies the six most common patterns of challenging behavior in kids. The full-day training provides parents with a consistent 4-step process to address and modify each pattern, giving attendees the opportunity to practice the 4-steps and receive feedback on their new skills.

Both 2-hour and full-day training participants receive a copy of the Parenting the Challenging Child text along with a comprehensive course manual.

 

 

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For more information or to find a Trainer in your area, please visit: https://www.lsci.org/parents/course-information/

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What Difference Does Quality Time Make?

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The importance of positive relationships in a young person’s life can never be overstated.  Through warm, supportive, and trusting relationships with adults—from parents and caregivers to teachers and coaches—kids gain the inner strength they need to overcome problems and to bounce back from life’s challenges.  What’s more, caring, consistent relationships offer the structure and support kids need to make lasting changes in their behavior.  When a child perceives that the adults in his life are truly invested in his well-being and interested in his experiences, he is more willing to talk about what is going on in his life and more likely to be open to adult feedback.

The good news when it comes to nurturing positive relationships with young people, is that the most meaningful connections adults make with kids are usually based on the simplest of gestures.  A proud smile, a word of reassurance, a bit of your undivided attention, a thoughtful response, an opportunity to practice a new skill, a hug just when it is needed most; all of these supportive behaviors are at once free and priceless.  Each of them communicates to a young person that they have worth and value.  Every kindness builds the relationship between the adult and child.

If building positive relationships between adults and kids is so fundamentally simple, why do so many young people feel alienated, isolated and alone?

Please check out the full post here, on Psychology Today.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/passive-aggressive-diaries/201812/what-difference-does-quality-time-make

 

Check out Signe’s newest book, Parenting the Challenging Child, due out on or about March 1.  Pre-order today!

Don’t Rush Childhood

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Childhood is precious.  Don’t rush it.

 

NEW BOOK RELEASE: Parenting the Challenging Child

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The LSCI Institute is extremely excited to announce that after more than three decades of helping professionals work with some of the most challenging children, we now bring our brain-based, trauma-informed, kid-centered approach to the unique needs of parents and caregivers.

Parenting the Challenging Child: The 4-Step Way to Turn Problem Situations Into Learning Opportunities provides readers with:

* Specific skills for building more positive relationships with kids
* Proven strategies for de-escalating stressful situations
* A reliable 4-step framework for turning common problem situations into lasting learning opportunities

This solution-focused book equips readers with new skills to identify and change six problematic patterns of behavior in young people. Even more importantly, readers will learn about how simple changes in the way they interact with loved ones during a problem situation can significantly improve the parent-child relationship and their kids’ future behaviors.

TRAINING AVAILABLE

In addition to the Parenting the Challenging Child textbook (now available for pre-order at a reduced rate), the LSCI Institute will offer both a 2-hour and a full-day training option. Biological parents and caregivers, foster care & adoptive parents, and professionals working in therapeutic foster care and adoption services will all benefit from these live training opportunities offered by certified LSCI Senior Trainers.

Click here to learn more.

PARENTING THE CHALLENGING CHILD: THE 4-STEP WAY TO TURN PROBLEM SITUATIONS INTO LEARNING OPPORTUNITIES IS SCHEDULED TO BE PUBLISHED ON MARCH 1. 2019. FOR ADDITIONAL INFORMATION OR TO ORDER BULK COPIES, PLEASE EMAIL signewhitson@lsci.org today!

How to Help Your Overly-Compliant Child

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Got a kid who can’t—or won’t—assert herself around others?   Highlights Magazine interviewed me, Dr. Michele Borba, and Dr. Kristin Buss for strategies on how to help passive young people find their voices. Check out our responses using the link below and at the “Smart Answer to Parents’ Toughest Questions” section on Highlights.com

 

https://www.highlights.com/parents/articles/smart-answers-parents-toughest-questions-passive-child-2

 

For more information on helping your child move beyond passivity, aggression, or passive aggression and on to more assertive communication, check out the activities, games and discussion ideas in How to Be Angry: An Assertive Anger Expression Group Guide for Kids & Teens.

“Anything you fear is teaching you courage…” and other important Parenting moments

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This morning, both of my kids are being challenged to do something outside of their comfort zone. The Mama bear in me wants to rush in and rescue them to save them from feeling fear. The loving Mama in me knows that these challenges are well within my girls’ abilities and will equip them with important life skills–including the confidence that they can face challenges head on. Breathe, Mama, breathe.

 

Anything that you fear teaches you

Mistakes are for Learning

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Two weeks ago, I shared with you the story of Mistake Cake–the ingenious and compassionate way that a former high school classmate of mine teaches her kids about righting wrongs and supporting family members.  She also gave me permission to share this post, in which she talks more about the gift of forgiving the mistakes of others and owning our own slip ups.

 

It started this way. When my kids were little, and they made a creative mess, or a mistake, or they were mean and regretful, I would say the same words. These words brought calm to me, even if I was unsettled inside:

 “It’s okay. You’re learning.”

The words “you’re learning” are truthful, forgiving, and full of promise.

As the kids grew older, and I made mistakes in front of them, I learned to say, “I’m sorry. I’m learning.”

Once, I scolded my daughter for using stamps as stickers. Moments after my accusatory lecture, I determined that the stamps had caught a snag and become stuck because of where I had put them. My child was bewildered. She was little and had not lied. Yet there I stood before her, shaming her for being naughty. All the while, she had done absolutely nothing wrong. Thirteen years later, I can still feel the lump of guilt that sunk in my gut when I realized that I punished her for my mistake. “I’m SO SORRY for scolding you for something that you didn’t do! I’m learning. Please forgive me!” I cried. I dropped to my knees and hugged her and kissed her passionately, mournfully.

“It’s okay Mommy.  You’re learning.”

The children are now throwing the ball out in front of the house. The smallest one repeatedly overthrows it. “Whoops! I’m sorry!” she yells.

The bigger one says, “It’s okay. You’re learning.”

 

 

Mistake Cake

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One of the best things about Facebook is the opportunity to become better acquainted with people you only knew from a distance. This weekend, thanks to a burst of high school reunion photos, I had the chance to connect with a woman who, I am learning, is extraordinary! I wish I had known her better way back when, but here’s a slice of how she looks at life and lifts up those around her. I think I want to be her when I grow up!

Mistake Cake (by Jennie Osborne Burke)

Someone around here made a mistake.

I think it’s important to talk about mistakes. I like for the whole gang to know about it. We talk about what happened, and how we can help the person that made the mistake.

The person that made the mistake does not feel shame, or a reason to hide. Instead, they receive compassion. They know that they aren’t the first (or last) person in the family to make a mistake. They can articulate why the mistake happened, and how to prevent it from happening again. The siblings pitch in to help their loved one doesn’t make the same mistake twice.

Instead of shame or aggression, there is responsibility, ownership and a plan.

And we get to eat cake.

mistake cake

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