Archive for March, 2019
I love it when two of my worlds collide! Today, I received the kindest email from a woman who I had recently helped access an LSCI online training. She subsequently read an article I wrote about bullying among girls and sent me this note: (Shared with permission)
Easily the most shared post I have ever written, here’s a link to the original article, Is it Rude, Is It Mean, or Is it Bullying?
I begin every Bullying Prevention presentation that I offer to professional, parents, and students by defining and distinguishing these very important behavioral terms and explaining that words really do matter when it comes to how we talk about the behavior of young people. By lumping all bad behaviors into the bullying basket, we run the risk of creating a “little boy who cried wolf” phenomena and causing this incredibly important issue to lose its urgency.
Please read on and share this post with anyone you know who is struggling to figure out what is going on for their child and how best to intervene.
I recently encouraged a teacher to “hold the space” for a young student who was going through a very tough emotional period. When she looked at me with confused eyes, I realized this phrase often needs explanation. Here’s the best one I’ve seen:
Description: Please join us for this very informative 30-minute webinar with LSCI Institute’s Chief Operating Officer, Signe Whitson. Some of the topics covered will be:
• Cultivating a positive relationship with your child
• Understanding the brain during stress and conflict
• The dynamics of parent-child conflict (The LSCI Conflict Cycle™)Time
Mar 27, 2019 7:00 PM in Eastern Time (US and Canada)
Reserve your spot for this fee event: https://zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_kI7LNlp0TDWd8UykjzfgIw
LSCI Certification Training Event: Aug 5-8, 2019
It may be just barely Spring, but I am looking ahead to summer and happy to announce an LSCI training opportunity in August in eastern Pennsylvania:
DATES: August 5-8, 2019
LOCATION: The Swain School, 1100 S. 24th St., Allentown, PA 18103
COSTS: $495/pp before July 15, 2019; $525/pp between July 16-31, 2019
REGISTRATION CLOSES on AUGUST 1, 2019
To register, click here or cut and paste the link below:
ONLINE REGISTRATION FORM: https://goo.gl/forms/AUkyJdUTJqG2pFrm2
Taking public jabs at others while avoiding personal confrontation is a hallmark of passive aggressive behavior. For many, it is also becoming a new social norm as more and more of our interpersonal communication takes place online instead of face to face. Passive aggression is a deliberate but masked way of expressing feelings of anger (Long & Whitson, 2016). Through such actions as posting embarrassing photos on social media and purposeful inactions such as failing to stop the spread of online gossip, digital communication has become the perfect medium for sugarcoated hostility.
Please click here to read my full post on Psychology Today about a real-life incident of unchecked, online passive aggressive behavior that humiliated a student in a suburban middle school…and how one astute teacher effectively managed the situation.
On April 15th, my newest book, Parenting the Challenging Child (available for pre-order now at a reduced price!) will hit stores and hopefully provide parents and caregivers with invaluable skills for de-escalating conflict and resolving typical problem situations in ways that build the parent-child relationship and bring about lasting change in destructive behavior patterns. Here’s some background information on the book for you:
Since 1991, Life Space Crisis Intervention (LSCI) has been offered as a professional training program for educators, counselors, psychologists, social workers, youth workers, and other professionals working with challenging children & adolescents. In recent years, the LSCI Institute has worked to translate its trauma-informed, brain-based, relationship-building concepts to the need of parents and caregivers. In an excerpt from the LSCI Institute’s new book, Parenting the Challenging Child: The 4-Step Way to Turn Problem Situations Into Learning Opportunities, the LSCI Conflict Cycle™ is introduced, explaining the circular and escalating dynamics of conflict between parents and children and offering important insights about the parent’s role in either fueling problem situations or halting them before they spiral out of control.
Click here to read an excerpt from Chapter 1, published in Psychology Today online.
In 8 Keys to End Bullying, I write about the importance of professionals and parents “keeping up” with what young people are doing online. While those of us *over a certain age* may always be digital immigrants in our kids’ native cyberlands, their safety depends on our commitment to stay as up-to-date-as-possible with the apps, sites, games, and lingo that kids are using.
One of the newest trends for adults to be aware of (read: talk to their kids about in loving, wisdom-imparting ways) is kids’ use of Google Docs–an app most adults wouldn’t think twice about their kids using for schoolwork–to engage in group chats and online bullying. Check it out here:
I’m in Mineral County, West Virginia for the next few days, speaking to faculty, staff and parents about practical ways to bring an end to bullying in schools. Really enjoying my trip here, talking with caring, intelligent, insightful adults who care deeply about kids and are committed to creating positive change.
This year, I connected with a local volunteer organization that arranges to send certified therapy dogs (and their owners) to local schools, treatment centers, airports, hospitals–and almost anywhere else you can imagine. At Swain, the “Happiness Dogs” bring comfort and joy. They are the perfect way to brighten up a student’s day, calm down feelings of stress, increase empathy, and decrease feelings of loneliness. The smiles on these kids’ faces tell it all.