Archive for March, 2019

Helping Girls Cope with Bullying

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I love it when two of my worlds collide!  Today, I received the kindest email from a woman who I had recently helped access  an LSCI online training.  She subsequently read an article I wrote about bullying among girls and sent me this note: (Shared with permission)

 

Thank you for that info, Signe.  I am able to log on from my phone and will do the training that way.
I also wanted to let you know that I just read your article in Psychology Today, “Helping Girls Cope With Bullying and Frenemies”.  What a great piece of writing! It’s so accessible and right on point.  I shared it with my staff and we’ll be discussing it during our next PLC, as we are dealing with exactly these issues in both our third and fourth grade classes.  Thank you for writing it and for sharing it-SO helpful!
With kindness and gratitude,
Laura E., M.Ed.
Behavior Specialist
Thank you, Laura, for all that you do to make a difference in the lives of young people!  You made my day.
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Is it Rude, Is It Mean, or Is it Bullying?

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Easily the most shared post I have ever written, here’s a link to the original article, Is it Rude, Is It Mean, or Is it Bullying?

I begin every Bullying Prevention presentation that I offer to professional, parents, and students by defining and distinguishing these very important behavioral terms and explaining that words really do matter when it comes to how we talk about the behavior of young people.  By lumping all bad behaviors into the bullying basket, we run the risk of creating a “little boy who cried wolf” phenomena and causing this incredibly important issue to lose its urgency.

Please read on and share this post with anyone you know who is struggling to figure out what is going on for their child and how best to intervene.

 

What Does it Mean to “Hold Space?”

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I recently encouraged a teacher to “hold the space” for a young student who was going through a very tough emotional period. When she looked at me with confused eyes, I realized this phrase often needs explanation. Here’s the best one I’ve seen:

FREE Parenting Webinar, March 27th

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Topic: Parenting the Challenging Child

Description: Please join us for this very informative 30-minute webinar with LSCI Institute’s Chief Operating Officer, Signe Whitson. Some of the topics covered will be:

• Cultivating a positive relationship with your child
• Understanding the brain during stress and conflict
• The dynamics of parent-child conflict (The LSCI Conflict Cycle™)Time

Mar 27, 2019 7:00 PM in Eastern Time (US and Canada)

Reserve your spot for this fee event: https://zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_kI7LNlp0TDWd8UykjzfgIw

Earn LSCI Certification this Summer!

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LSCI Certification Training Event: Aug 5-8, 2019

It may be just barely Spring, but I am looking ahead to summer and happy to announce an LSCI training opportunity in August in eastern Pennsylvania:

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LSCI Certification Training

DATES: August 5-8, 2019

LOCATION: The Swain School, 1100 S. 24th St., Allentown, PA 18103

COSTS: $495/pp before July 15, 2019; $525/pp between July 16-31, 2019

REGISTRATION CLOSES on AUGUST 1, 2019

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Life Space Crisis Intervention is an international training and certification program offering professionals advanced skills for turning problem situations into learning opportunities for young people with self-defeating patterns of behavior.  For full course information, please visit www.lsci.org
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FULL ATTENDANCE THROUGHOUT THE 4 DAY TRAINING IS REQUIRED IN ORDER TO EARN CERTIFICATION
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Participants will experience:
— Instructor-led teaching and modeling of intervention skills
— Real-life video sequences
— Structured and small group activities
— Realistic role-play activities
— Demonstration of skills requirement in order to earn certification
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Learn what to do with young people who:
* Act out in stress, sparking explosive and endless power struggles
* Make poor decisions based on distorted perceptions & thoughts
* Have the right intentions but lack the social skills to be successful
* Are purposefully aggressive with little conscience
* Act in impulsive ways due to feelings of shame and inadequacy
* Become entangled in destructive peer relationships
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Certification in the skills of LSCI does not expire. 
Text:  Long, N., Fecser, F. and Wood, M. (1991).  Life Space Crisis Intervention: Talking with Students in Conflict.  Austin, TX: ProED, Inc.
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If you have any questions prior to registration, please email signewhitson@lsci.org
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To register, click here or cut and paste the link below:

ONLINE REGISTRATION FORM: https://goo.gl/forms/AUkyJdUTJqG2pFrm2

Stopping Passive Aggressive Behavior Online

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Taking public jabs at others while avoiding personal confrontation is a hallmark of passive aggressive behavior. For many, it is also becoming a new social norm as more and more of our interpersonal communication takes place online instead of face to face.  Passive aggression is a deliberate but masked way of expressing feelings of anger (Long & Whitson, 2016).  Through such actions as posting embarrassing photos on social media and purposeful inactions such as failing to stop the spread of online gossip, digital communication has become the perfect medium for sugarcoated hostility.

Please click here to read my full post on Psychology Today about a real-life incident of unchecked, online passive aggressive behavior that humiliated a student in a suburban middle school…and how one astute teacher effectively managed the situation.

The Dynamics of Parent-Child Conflict

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On April 15th, my newest book, Parenting the Challenging Child (available for pre-order now at a reduced price!) will hit stores and hopefully provide parents and caregivers with invaluable skills for de-escalating conflict and resolving typical problem situations in ways that build the parent-child relationship and bring about lasting change in destructive behavior patterns. Here’s some background information on the book for you:

Since 1991, Life Space Crisis Intervention (LSCI) has been offered as a professional training program for educators, counselors, psychologists, social workers, youth workers, and other professionals working with challenging children & adolescents.  In recent years, the LSCI Institute has worked to translate its trauma-informed, brain-based, relationship-building concepts to the need of parents and caregivers.  In an excerpt from the LSCI Institute’s new book, Parenting the Challenging Child: The 4-Step Way to Turn Problem Situations Into Learning Opportunities,  the LSCI Conflict Cycle™ is introduced, explaining the circular and escalating dynamics of conflict between parents and children and offering important insights about the parent’s role in either fueling problem situations or halting them before they spiral out of control. 

Click here to read an excerpt from Chapter 1, published in Psychology Today online.

Is Google Docs the Newest “Work Around” for Online Bullying?

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In 8 Keys to End Bullying, I write about the importance of professionals and parents “keeping up” with what young people are doing online. While those of us *over a certain age* may always be digital immigrants in our kids’ native cyberlands, their safety depends on our commitment to stay as up-to-date-as-possible with the apps, sites, games, and lingo that kids are using.

One of the newest trends for adults to be aware of (read: talk to their kids about in loving, wisdom-imparting ways) is kids’ use of Google Docs–an app most adults wouldn’t think twice about their kids using for schoolwork–to engage in group chats and online bullying. Check it out here:

How Kids are Using Google Docs to Bully Each Other

Bullying Prevention Training in Mineral County, WV

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I’m in Mineral County, West Virginia for the next few days, speaking to faculty, staff and parents about practical ways to bring an end to bullying in schools. Really enjoying my trip here, talking with caring, intelligent, insightful adults who care deeply about kids and are committed to creating positive change.

Bullying Prevention & Digital Citizenship Trainings

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Therapy Dogs at Swain: Comfort & Joy

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This year, I connected with a local volunteer organization that arranges to send certified therapy dogs (and their owners) to local schools, treatment centers, airports, hospitals–and almost anywhere else you can imagine.  At Swain, the “Happiness Dogs” bring comfort and joy.  They are the perfect way to brighten up a student’s day, calm down feelings of stress, increase empathy, and decrease feelings of loneliness.  The smiles on these kids’ faces tell it all.

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