In The Angry Smile, we talk abut passive aggressive behavior as part of a cultural norm.  This clip (between 1:58-2:58) is a perfect illustration of what we are talking about in the book, as Texan Renee Zellweger sends Kathy Griffen a gorgeous bouquet of flowers, which, as Kathy points out, is really just Southern for “F-you!”

The Angry Smile: The Psychology of Passive-aggressive Behavior in Families, Schools, and Workplaces