>Watch this clip from Celebrity Rehab 4’s meeting between patient/actor Jeremy London and his estranged wife, Melissa. Just prior to the sit-down with Dr. Drew, London learned that his wife sold damaging stories about him to the National Enquirer. In this meeting, Dr. Drew has asked him to hold off on addressing the subject until he is further into his sobriety (the main purpose of the meeting is to simply agree to a peaceful co-existence for the sake of the couple’s young son). London does as he is told–sort of–by not confronting his wife about the Enquirer, but listen for the clear, passive aggressive provocations he lays out:
Especially classic is London’s facial expression after Melissa leaves the room, when Dr. Drew confronts his passive aggressive provocations. London’s angry smile about Melissa going off like a “roman candle” is a clear indication of the purposefulness of London’s passive aggression.
Also, Dr. Drew’s direct, benign confrontation of London’s provocation, both with Melissa in the room and after, is a great demonstration of the effectiveness of this approach with passive aggressive behavior.http://rcm.amazon.com/e/cm?t=passivea0d-20&o=1&p=8&l=bpl&asins=1416404236&fc1=000000&IS2=1<1=_blank&m=amazon&lc1=0000FF&bc1=000000&bg1=FFFFFF&f=ifr
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>Whoever said Reality TV was a waste of time never tried to demonstrate a concept about passive aggression! The 3/25/10 episode of VH-1’s Sober House with Dr. Drew shows so many great concepts from The Angry Smile. Watch House Manager Jennifer Jimenez get caught up in Conflict Cyle after Conflict Cycle!
Here is the link to VH-1’s website. The clip I have in mind starts about 39 min into the show:
Watch former NBA star Dennis Rodman engage Jennifer in a passive aggressive showdown. She insists that he write a 150-word essay on why he (and other housemates) are sabotaging their recovery. His response: writing the word “why” on a piece of paper precisely 150 times. Intentional inefficiency in action!
When it is time for Jennifer to collect the essay, she comes at Dennis guns-blazing: yelling, threatening, dropping F-bombs, etc. Dennis remains calm throughout, clearly amused at her escalating anger…classic passive aggressive conflict brewing! As if to confirm, in the midst of her one-woman rant, Dennis says (with an angry smile), “I want to see how mad you really get!”
And that’s all just the icing on the cake. The preface to all of this is a passive aggressive war of words about Dennis giving his cell phone to Jennifer as a consequence for breaking curfew.