50 Ways to Encourage a Child

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Are Your Kids Ready to Go Back to School? An Insider’s Look at What Teachers Really Want

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Stores are buzzing this time of year with back-to-school shoppers and nervous anticipation of the school year that is about to begin. Kids are wondering if their BFF will be in their class and agonizing over important shopping decisions: backpack or messenger bag? Parents are guiltily calculating how many days until the kids go back to school and trying to remember if they ever supervised any summer reading or algebra review.

When it comes to what classroom teachers really want in terms of preparing students for a successful year, however, stylish school bags and math memorization don’t even make the top ten list. In my post below, featured in the Huffington Post’s Parents pages, I share Teachers’ Top 3 Wish List items–specific skills and teachable traits that make for a peaceful classroom and productive learning environment.  Please read and share with parents and caregivers you know:

 

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/signe-whitson/getting-your-kids-ready-to-go-back-to-school-an-insiders-look-at-what-teachers-really-want_b_7836946.html

 

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The Angry Smile at CPI’s Trainer Conference in New Orleans

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This week, I had the honor and pleasure of traveling to one of my favorite cities–New Orleans, LA– to present at the CPI Conference on The Angry Smile and strategies for understanding and changing passive aggressive behavior. This article summarizes some of what I shared with this great group of professionals.

Also, check out the LSCI Institute’s online training based on The Angry Smile, which we proudly partner with CPI to present to professionals and parents everywhere. www.lsci.org

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/passive-aggressive-diaries/201408/passive-aggressive-behaviors-in-school

 

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School Administrator Reviews Friendship & Other Weapons

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Many thanks to Michael McKnight from New Jersey for this feedback on Friendship & Other Weapons:

“As a long time school administrator this is an exceptional resource to add to any prevention program and is tailored to girls. Often we neglect this group and the activities and resources in this book are an excellent addition to any bully prevention program!”

(Get your copy today at http://www.amazon.com/Friendship-Other-Weapons-Activities-Bullying/product-reviews/184905875X/ref=cm_cr_dp_synop?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=0&sortBy=bySubmissionDateDescending#R2TCI7531ZY40P)

 

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Privacy vs. Safety: Which Prevails When it Comes to Children’s Online Safety?

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GUEST POST by Amy Williams

 

Today we’re going to talk about something that’s been in the news a lot lately: privacy. As adults, we expect a certain degree of independence and acknowledgement in our lives – few things are more frustrating or insulting than having other people dig through our information without permission.

 

Given the value we put on privacy, when – if ever – is it acceptable to violate the privacy of our children?

 

Well… always.

 

 Safety and Privacy

 

Bullying remains a huge problem in our society, with more than half of all children reporting that they’ve been bullied online (or were bullies themselves). We have tried for years to properly combat bullying, and many of the standard programs haven’t succeeded – they’ve made it worse.

 

Now, does anyone really think the numbers would be so high if our children knew how to protect themselves? I don’t. Children are capable of remarkable things if they’re taught the right way, but the fact remains that many of them don’t understand how to stop bullies, don’t always realize that bullying others is wrong, and can often suffer for years after the fact.

 

As parents, we want our children to grow up strong, independent, and happy – but children aren’t going to be independent just because they’re unsupervised. This is especially true of the online world, which is rapidly becoming the tool of choice for bullies who want to destroy the social lives of their victims.

 

In fact, there are times when we’re part of the problem – and while this usually isn’t intentional, it does mean that we occasionally need to rethink our approaches to a given problem.

 

This is where privacy comes back into the picture. As parents, we often allow our children a great deal of freedom in the digital world – but all the available evidence says that they’re not being responsible with that freedom. Quite frankly, children and young teens are not mature enough to use the internet without supervision, and that means we have to keep an eye on what they’re doing.

 

The Problem With Privacy

 

It’s almost impossible to get real-time information on exactly what your child is doing online – some types of software effectively allow it, but there’s no way you could watch them at every moment and enjoy the rest of your life. There simply aren’t enough hours in the day – but when we aren’t looking, kids will start doing things they shouldn’t.

 

Fortunately, there are a few things you can do to cut down on problems.

 

  • First, require all devices to be used in a public, family area – ideally with the screen facing the rest of the house. Teens are instinctively nervous about people looking over their shoulders, even if they’re not doing anything wrong, and they’re far less likely to start bullying others if they think you could catch them at any moment.
  • Next, don’t allow teens to take their smartphones into their bedrooms. They shouldn’t need to do that anyway – a better plan is requiring them to leave it out in a family area. This also helps to discourage smartphone addiction by stopping them from reaching for it every time it beeps at them – worthwhile in its own right.
  • Finally, focus on teaching your child the skills they need to combat bullying on their own. It’s easy to try and rush in to solve the problem yourself, but if you do everything, then your child will never develop the skills they need to independently resolve troubles. Look at incidents of cyberbullying (and other online problems) as a chance to teach your child the best ways to act. The more they know about taking control of the situation, the happier they’ll ultimately be.

 

 

What about you? Do you think privacy or safety is more important for your own child, and why? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this issue, so please leave a comment below and let me know what you think!

 

About the Guest Blogger:

Amy Williams is a free-lance journalist based in Southern California and mother of two. As a parent, she enjoys spreading the word on positive parenting techniques in the digital age and raising awareness on issues like cyberbullying and online safety.

Contact Amy:
Twitter @AmyKWilliams1
Email: amykristinewilliams@gmail.com

What LSCI Training Offers to New (and Experienced!) Educators

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“Get to know them, indulge your curiosity, spend time learning about who they are as human beings; the rest will follow. Your students will remember how you made them feel, whether they felt loved and cared for by you.”

Check out this great article from the folks at Edutopia that shares what one teacher wishes she had known at the beginning of her career:

 

http://www.edutopia.org/blog/what-i-wish-id-known-new-teacher-elena-aguilar?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=blog-what-i-wish-id-known-new-teacher-countdown-link

 

Then, please visit www.lsci.org to check out how this organization, which I have been affiliated with for 15 years, gives adults the skills they need to look beyond a student’s surface behavior and get to know the child within.

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Mistakes are for Learning

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Two weeks ago, I shared with you the story of Mistake Cake–the ingenious and compassionate way that a former high school classmate of mine teaches her kids about righting wrongs and supporting family members.  She also gave me permission to share this post, in which she talks more about the gift of forgiving the mistakes of others and owning our own slip ups.

 

It started this way. When my kids were little, and they made a creative mess, or a mistake, or they were mean and regretful, I would say the same words. These words brought calm to me, even if I was unsettled inside:

 “It’s okay. You’re learning.”

The words “you’re learning” are truthful, forgiving, and full of promise.

As the kids grew older, and I made mistakes in front of them, I learned to say, “I’m sorry. I’m learning.”

Once, I scolded my daughter for using stamps as stickers. Moments after my accusatory lecture, I determined that the stamps had caught a snag and become stuck because of where I had put them. My child was bewildered. She was little and had not lied. Yet there I stood before her, shaming her for being naughty. All the while, she had done absolutely nothing wrong. Thirteen years later, I can still feel the lump of guilt that sunk in my gut when I realized that I punished her for my mistake. “I’m SO SORRY for scolding you for something that you didn’t do! I’m learning. Please forgive me!” I cried. I dropped to my knees and hugged her and kissed her passionately, mournfully.

“It’s okay Mommy.  You’re learning.”

The children are now throwing the ball out in front of the house. The smallest one repeatedly overthrows it. “Whoops! I’m sorry!” she yells.

The bigger one says, “It’s okay. You’re learning.”

 

 

Building Cultures of Kindness in Schools

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During April, I put my elementary school-aged students on a SECRET AGENT MISSION: to show random acts of kindness to a designated classmate, without revealing their identity.  The rules were simple:

  • No buying gifts
  • No having a parent bake cookies
  • This mission is all about simple acts of consideration that come from the heart. 
  • The secret agents get to reveal their identity at the end of the month.

My purpose is to show the kids how small, everyday acts can make a big difference in our school.

The good news, now that it’s reveal time: they really get it!!  Here are just a few of the terrific things they have done:

“I made a picture for her.”
“I asked if she needed help carrying her stuff to the bus.”
“I told him he did a good job in Music.”
“I held the door for the Kindergarteners”
“I complimented her dress.”
“I asked him to play when he was all alone at recess.”
“I shared my snack when she forgot hers.”

It’s unanimous: these simple things have made the kids feel “great!”  So much goodness around here.

No act of kindness is ever wasted.

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Mistake Cake

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One of the best things about Facebook is the opportunity to become better acquainted with people you only knew from a distance. This weekend, thanks to a burst of high school reunion photos, I had the chance to connect with a woman who, I am learning, is extraordinary! I wish I had known her better way back when, but here’s a slice of how she looks at life and lifts up those around her. I think I want to be her when I grow up!

Mistake Cake (by Jennie Osborne Burke)

Someone around here made a mistake.

I think it’s important to talk about mistakes. I like for the whole gang to know about it. We talk about what happened, and how we can help the person that made the mistake.

The person that made the mistake does not feel shame, or a reason to hide. Instead, they receive compassion. They know that they aren’t the first (or last) person in the family to make a mistake. They can articulate why the mistake happened, and how to prevent it from happening again. The siblings pitch in to help their loved one doesn’t make the same mistake twice.

Instead of shame or aggression, there is responsibility, ownership and a plan.

And we get to eat cake.

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Looking Beyond Behavior to Get to Know a Child’s Real Needs

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One of the greatest strengths of LSCI training is how it teaches adults to get to know “the inside kid.”  To look beyond behavior, to take time to make a child feel heard and understood, and to ask about the thoughts and feelings.  This intervention reminds me of something an LSCI-certified professional would do!

 

http://wnep.com/2015/04/17/teacher-shares-heartbreaking-notes-from-third-graders-sparks-social-media-movement/

 

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