In their younger years, they were inseparable. They begged for playdates, planned out sleepovers, coordinated afterschool activities, and just seemed to find genuine joy in each other’s company. It was a match made in heaven, you observed, and you felt so lucky that your child had found such a positive friendship so early on in life.
Then, things changed. Seemingly overnight. One day, you are cajoling your tween to take a break from her 3-hour texting marathon with her bestie, and the next you notice that her cell phone suddenly sounds like radio silence.
Your daughter is devastated by this abrupt cut-off. You watch as she desperately tries to figure out why her friend has stopped responding to texts and how come none of the kids at her lunch table will talk to her anymore. But she can’t seem to glean any understanding of the cause. She only knows with certainty that nothing is the same.
What can you do for your child when he or she is on the receiving end of a sudden deep freeze from former friends? Read on for 9 strategies parents can use to support their children after bullying and social exclusion:
While schools in the U.S. focus intensively on test scores, experts agree that social-emotional competency (demonstrating skills such as empathy and compassion) is a far better predictor of adult success. Read (and share, please) the article below to find simple ways to cultivate compassion in your kids.
Over the past few years, I’ve had the privilege of speaking to thousands of parents, professionals and students about strategies to stop bullying. I feel honored to be invited to so many schools and communities and hope that the ideas I share are helping to change the culture of bullying. Thanks to the wonderful members of The Harker School in San Jose, CA for an especially terrific and inspiring day.
In my Bullying Prevention trainings, I always talk about fostering empathy and compassion in kids as an “antidote” to bullying behaviors. It’s true that turning values into verbs (e.g. putting compassion into action) makes a noticeable difference in schools. Check out what this Superintendent said:
“Teaching compassion like this has a positive impact on school culture and learning as well. Superintendent Manhas reports that PBIS and the related compassion focus have led to a significant drop in discipline issues district-wide. In turn, this creates more academically-focused classrooms.”
During the elementary school years, most kids are very aware of technology but still quite naïve about all of the hurtful ways in which it can be used. Well into their adolescence even, many kids remain oblivious to the legal consequences of their online actions. This real-life example of innocence-gone-awry by way of technology underscores that one of the most important things adults can do to bring an end to cyberbullying is to teach young kids about the risks of their online behavior and to give them skills to protect themselves from lasting harm.
For the full article, please click here or paste this link into your browser: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/signe-whitson/what-happens-when-kids-ma_b_5953026.html
It’s Educator Appreciation Week at the Barnes & Noble in the Lehigh Valley’s Promenade Shops. I’ll be there on Tuesday from 6-8pm, talking about simple, memorable, effective Bullying Prevention activities for schools and classrooms. If you are in the area, please stop by!
In support of National Bullying Prevention Month, Norton Mental Health is giving away three copies of my new book, 8 Keys to End Bullying; Strategies for Parents & Schools on Goodreads and offering 20% off on orders direct from W. W. Norton.
This month, the Crisis Prevention Institute (CPI) is featuring a leader in Bullying Prevention each day. I am more than honored to be named as today’s Difference Maker. Please check out all of the great resources and activities that CPI is offering throughout the month and tune in the latest edition of Unrestrained, a podcast in which I talk about Bullying Prevention efforts in schools and communities.
CPI’s School Bullying Prevention pages: http://www.crisisprevention.com/Resources/School-Bullying-Prevention/Home
For a list of great resources to share with kids as we kick off Bullying Prevention Month, please visit: http://signewhitson.com/tips-strategies/
At the end of June, I had the honor of being the Keynote Speaker at the 26th annual Looking to the Future Conference, put on by Southern Christian Services for Children & Youth in the historical city of Natchez, MS. The participants were wonderfully experienced and incredibly dedicated professionals. I had the pleasure of exchanging strategies and stories about stopping bullying and changing passive aggressive behavior during two breakout sessions after the keynote. Here are a few photos from the event: