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>Real World New Orleans | Ep. 10 | Getting Down, Blowing Up
514 years
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>Real World New Orleans Ep. 10 Getting Down, Blowing Up: “The roommates might have finally had enough of Ryan’s inconsiderate behavior.”
Danielle or Ryan? Who is the better living example of passive aggressive behavior? They’re both so good at their backhanded rage and covert anger, it’s hard to pick a favorite! How would you weigh in?
In The Angry Smile, we explain the dynamics of the Passive Aggressive Conflict Cycle, a paradigm that describes why so many people who work or live with a passive aggressive person experience sudden and uncharacteristic emotional outbursts. In fact, most people involved in daily interactions with a passive aggressive individual are ultimately beaten down by the relationship.
This episode of The Real World features classic clips of how Ryan calmly discharges “drops” of his hidden rage on his roommates. In the “Confessional,” he admits his underlying anger to TV viewers but in person with his roommates, he is unable to be honest or direct about his feelings, choosing instead to “forget” where he parked the group’s car, fail to pick up after himself, and sabotage Erik’s romance (to name just this week’s antics).
The real dynamics of the Passive Aggressive Conflict Cycle come into play as we watch Erik’s middle-of-the-night confrontation of Ryan. Erik is the most level-headed of all the housemates, but this episode traces his slow, steady accumulation of rage and his eventual, uncharacteristic blow-up.
The confrontation can be found about 30 minutes into the episode, but if you have the time, the events leading up to it are key in understanding how Ryan inspires Erik to a roller coaster of emotions and an explosive confrontation.
If you are interested in reading more about passive aggressive behavior in families and friendships, please check out The Angry Smile: The Psychology of Passive Aggressive Behavior in Families, Schools, and Workplaces
>Real World New Orleans | Ep. 10 | Getting Down, Blowing Up
46414 years
>Real World New Orleans Ep. 10 Getting Down, Blowing Up: “The roommates might have finally had enough of Ryan’s inconsiderate behavior.”
Danielle or Ryan? Who is the better living example of passive aggressive behavior? They’re both so good at their backhanded rage and covert anger, it’s hard to pick a favorite! How would you weigh in?
In The Angry Smile, we explain the dynamics of the Passive Aggressive Conflict Cycle, a paradigm that describes why so many people who work or live with a passive aggressive person experience sudden and uncharacteristic emotional outbursts. In fact, most people involved in daily interactions with a passive aggressive individual are ultimately beaten down by the relationship.
This episode of The Real World features classic clips of how Ryan calmly discharges “drops” of his hidden rage on his roommates. In the “Confessional,” he admits his underlying anger to TV viewers but in person with his roommates, he is unable to be honest or direct about his feelings, choosing instead to “forget” where he parked the group’s car, fail to pick up after himself, and sabotage Erik’s romance (to name just this week’s antics).
The real dynamics of the Passive Aggressive Conflict Cycle come into play as we watch Erik’s middle-of-the-night confrontation of Ryan. Erik is the most level-headed of all the housemates, but this episode traces his slow, steady accumulation of rage and his eventual, uncharacteristic blow-up.
The confrontation can be found about 30 minutes into the episode, but if you have the time, the events leading up to it are key in understanding how Ryan inspires Erik to a roller coaster of emotions and an explosive confrontation.
If you are interested in reading more about passive aggressive behavior in families and friendships, please check out The Angry Smile: The Psychology of Passive Aggressive Behavior in Families, Schools, and Workplaces
>The Lighthouse Story and Why Adults Must Sometimes Divert Course
614 years
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>As a Trainer for the Life Space Crisis Intervention Institute for the past decade, I have had many wonderful opportunities to teach (and learn from!) parents and professionals who live and work with troubled and troubling children. One of the first orders of business during any LSCI training course is to talk about the importance of adults being able to move beyond rote consequences and rigid stances in order to respond to a child’s individual needs. We teach that considering the story behind surface behaviors is essential for successful relationship-building and crisis management.
This video tells the story in a nutshell:
Have you ever felt like the captain in your work or home interactions with children?
I know I have! The ability to train and blog about effective practices with young people does not always surmount human nature’s drive to “be right” or a parent’s expectation to “be obeyed.” Nonetheless, I remind myself that there are few better gifts I can give my kids than to make them feel heard and understood and to consider the feedback they are providing through their actions.
Do your kids ever pose as lighthouses?
When they are tired, hungry, overwhelmed, or just plain (gasp!) right about something, kids can dig in their heels and become immovable. The ability to maintain flexibility with kids–both those we parent and those we may work with–sends the all-important message that they are unique individuals with important needs that deserve recognition and consideration. In the case of being up against a lighthouse-like child, the willingness to change course every now and then prevents the lasting damage of a painful collision.
This clip can also be found at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=brNX4xqlXJE
My Baby Clothes Boutique is partnering with me to provide articles, such as this one, to parents and professionals. Check them out whenever you need to find that perfect outfit for your little one. They have it all: adorable baby headbands, cute baby shoes, trendy baby hats, and everything in between!
>The Lighthouse Story and Why Adults Must Sometimes Divert Course
76814 years
by signewhitson
in Uncategorized
>As a Trainer for the Life Space Crisis Intervention Institute for the past decade, I have had many wonderful opportunities to teach (and learn from!) parents and professionals who live and work with troubled and troubling children. One of the first orders of business during any LSCI training course is to talk about the importance of adults being able to move beyond rote consequences and rigid stances in order to respond to a child’s individual needs. We teach that considering the story behind surface behaviors is essential for successful relationship-building and crisis management.
This video tells the story in a nutshell:
Have you ever felt like the captain in your work or home interactions with children?
I know I have! The ability to train and blog about effective practices with young people does not always surmount human nature’s drive to “be right” or a parent’s expectation to “be obeyed.” Nonetheless, I remind myself that there are few better gifts I can give my kids than to make them feel heard and understood and to consider the feedback they are providing through their actions.
Do your kids ever pose as lighthouses?
When they are tired, hungry, overwhelmed, or just plain (gasp!) right about something, kids can dig in their heels and become immovable. The ability to maintain flexibility with kids–both those we parent and those we may work with–sends the all-important message that they are unique individuals with important needs that deserve recognition and consideration. In the case of being up against a lighthouse-like child, the willingness to change course every now and then prevents the lasting damage of a painful collision.
This clip can also be found at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=brNX4xqlXJE
My Baby Clothes Boutique is partnering with me to provide articles, such as this one, to parents and professionals. Check them out whenever you need to find that perfect outfit for your little one. They have it all: adorable baby headbands, cute baby shoes, trendy baby hats, and everything in between!