Posts tagged cyberbullying
An Anti-Bullying Message that Encourages Bystanders to Make a Difference
823Please check out this great organization, Sweethearts and Heroes:
“You can hang up all the zero-tolerance posters you want, but at the end of the day they don’t do a lot,” Murphy said. “It’s the students who are going to do something about it. Victims believe they are the problem; that’s why they end up killing themselves. You can be a hero to a kid if you pull him or her aside and say, ‘Don’t worry about that guy; he’s like that to everybody.’ ”
Re-thinking the “Drama” Approach to Bullying
656Please check out this is great, thought-provoking op-ed piece from the NY Times. I whole-heartedly agree that with the authors that:
Interventions must focus on positive concepts like healthy relationships and digital citizenship rather than starting with the negative framing of bullying. The key is to help young people feel independently strong, confident and capable without first requiring them to see themselves as either an oppressed person or an oppressor.
It’s the social worker in me, I suppose; I am a strengths-perspective kinda girl. In my new book, this is the approach I take. While the book title Friendship & Other Weapons is used to convey to adult readers the nature of how girl bullying is acted out within relationships, girl participants will come to know their membership as part of a Real Friendships group. As such, the solution-focused lessons, engaging group activities and relevant discussions will help girls cope with “drama” in honest, relationship-enhancing, self-affirming ways.
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/09/23/opinion/why-cyberbullying-rhetoric-misses-the-mark.html?_r=1&ref=opinion
Confessions of a Former Bully
1189In Friendship & Other Weapons, I feature an activity for girls based on Trudy Ludwig’s fantastic book, My Secret Bully. The book is all about how bullying can be disguised as friendship and how particularly painful this type of subtle, hidden, “I Was Just Kidding” aggression can be. My Secret Bully also offers kids great insights into how to cope with bullying effectively, from sharing experiences with trusted adults to standing up for themselves. I love it–a definite favorite!
Trudy Ludwig’s most recent book, Confessions of a Former Bully, also provides great ideas and insights for handling bullying. The following blog post, from the School Counselor Blog, talks about an activity that one school counselor has developed, based on Ludwig’s new work:
http://www.schcounselor.com/2011/09/i-made-bully-hat.html#comment-form
‘Odd Girl Out’ tackles bullying in the digital age
609‘Odd Girl Out’ tackles bullying in the digital age.
Rachel Simmons did a great interview this morning on the Today Show, talking about girls & cyberbullying. Always great to hear from her…always frightening to think about the parenting perils ahead of me, raising two daughters.
5 Ways to Talk with Your Daughter About Technology, from Rachel Simmons
488In her newly revised and updated book, Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls, author Rachel Simmons suggests five conversation starters for parents to use to get their daughters to open up about social media use. “Opening lines” and areas ripe for discussion include:
1. What’s your favorite thing to do online or on your phone?
2. Would your friendships be better or worse without technology? Easier or harder? (more…)
Rachel Simmons Offers Tip for Parents on Teenage Girls’ Use of Social Media
752Click below to listen to Odd Girl Out author Rachel Simmons’ NPR interview on Teenage Girls & Social Media.
Bullying at Summer Camp: 5 Ways Parents Can Help Kids Cope
1081Marlo Thomas and Dr. Joel Haber, author of Bullyproof Your Child for Life: Protect Your Child from Teasing, Taunting and Bullying for Good, offer these 5 tips for helping young people cope with bullying during the not-always-carefree days of summer:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/marlo-thomas/summer-camp-bullying_b_885536.html
The Breathtaking Cruelty of Formspring: What Every Parent Should Know
864Read below for bestselling author Rachel Simmons’ (Odd Girl Out, Odd Girl Speaks Out, The Curse of the Good Girl) perspective and very helpful suggestions for talking to young girls about the “breathtakingly cruel” website Formspring: