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Assertive Anger Expression for Kids: Arguing vs. Disagreeing
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Do your children bicker? Mine sure do. In fact, asking if they bicker is like asking if they breathe; it comes so naturally to them that some days it seems like a life-sustaining function. I try to remind myself that sibling rivalry, while not actually critical to survival, is at least a great teacher for kids, as they practice life skills like assertiveness, negotiation, and forgiveness.
Though I put great effort into not being a constant family mediator, one of the most effective lessons I was ever able to pass on mid-conflict was teaching my daughters the difference between disagreeing and arguing.
For the full text of this article, please visit:
http://www.parentsareimportant.com/2011/06/assertive-anger-expression-for-kids.html
For more information on skills and strategies to help children express anger in assertive, relationship-enhancing ways, please check out my latest book, to be released this July: How to Be Angry: An Assertive Anger Expression Group Guide for Kids and Teens
Great Advice from Sesame Workshop About How to Handle Kids’ Questions About Scary News Stories
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Sesame Street will never do you wrong. Here is a great video clip from Dr. Rosemarie Truglio, VP of Research and Education at Sesame Workshop, with wise words about the importance of parents giving kids coping skills for handling scary news and events.
http://www-tc.pbs.org/video/media/swf/PBSPlayer.swf
Watch the full episode. See more The Parent Show.
Thanks, Sarah, for sharing!
5 Ways to Parent a Perfectionist
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Some days, I wish I were more of a perfectionist. I see the splotch of paint on my bedroom ceiling and think, “Oh, I should have touched that up…nine years ago.” I notice the slightly askew picture frames on our family room wall and wish I had bothered to measure before I hammered the nails in to the wall. Then, I forget about it.
When I watch my seven-year old daughter agonize over handwriting homework and berate herself for missing one question on her
30-problem math test, I thank the gods of “good enough” that perfectionism was never my thing. And I ask those same
gods for advice on how to help my child overcome her need to be flawless.
If you, too, are the parent of a perfectionist, here are some tips that I have found to be most effective:
1. Play up personal strengths and play down competitions
In school and at home, my daughter loves to win. My husband insists that this is a great quality and I know that in many ways, her desire for excellence will serve her well. Yet I also know that too much of a good thing can be rough, especially for young kids who hold themselves to impossibly high standards. When my daughter seems singularly focused on being the ‘best” reader in
her class or getting the “highest” score in math, we try to re-focus her energies on achieving personal bests and celebrating