Being a Mom

Review Posted on How to Be Angry

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Check out this review of How to Be Angry, from the Reclaiming Youth International newsletter:

 

http://www.reclaiming.com/content/node/212

Very Funny! Why Sarcasm is No Laughing Matter for Kids

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Sometimes, it’s just too hard to keep the sarcastic comments to myself.  Especially at the dinner table where my let-it-all-hang-out daughters really just ask for my husband and I to engage in witty banter about their manners, their singing talents, and their friendship dramas. Nonetheless, I know I should hold my tongue…

 

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/signe-whitson/very-funny-why-sarcasm-is_b_1067668.html

Not Just for Grown-Ups Anymore: Why Assertive Anger Expression Skills are Helpful for Kids & Teens

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From the time they are toddlers, children are often coaxed by adults to hide their feelings of anger behind a social smile.  Worse yet, kids hear the explicit message, “Don’t be angry,” and are actively encouraged to deny this most basic of human emotions.  When they act out—either through the tantrums of their earliest years or the rebellion of their teenage ones—they are reprimanded for all of the behaviors that adults do not want them to use.

 

Rather that hammering away at all of the things kids should not do when it comes to expressing their anger, parents and caregivers can effect lasting change in their kids anger-inspired behaviors by teaching them specific skills for how to be (more…)

Words to Live By

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“Do not forget small kindnesses and do not remember small faults.”–Chinese Proverb.

Girl Scouts Know How to Be Friends Indeed!

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This morning, I had the GREAT honor and pleasure of doing a workshop for about 120 Girl Scouts and their moms (ages 5-11), based on some of the lessons and activities in Friendship & Other Weapons.  We focused on specific ways that the girls can become allies to someone who is being bullied both before, during, and after bullying situations.  In less than 10 minutes, the amazing girls came up with over 60 ways to be a friend to someone who is being bullied!  They also learned that:

It is never OK to do nothing about bullying!

Here are a few of the “How to Be a Friend” and “Stop Bullying” posters they left with me to share with you.  Please check the Bullying in Elementary School link to see more and to find out how to schedule a Friendship & Other Weapons workshop for your group of girls.

 



How Friendship & Other Weapons Came to Life

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This morning, an interviewer asked me how the idea for Friendship & Other Weapons came to be.  Thought it was worth sharing with you as well…

 

My previous book, How to Be Angry, started with the fundamental premise that anger is OK; its 15-session curriculum is all about giving children, tweens and teens specific assertive skills to express their anger in constructive, relationship-building ways.  After writing the book, it became obvious to me that there is a large group of young people who are shut out from this basic presupposition that anger is a normal, natural human experience.   Millions of young girls in the United States grow up immersed in a social universe in which “being angry” is equated with “being bad” or, at best, not “being nice.”  (more…)

Loving the Challenging Child

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Sometimes, you read just the right article at just the right time.  Tonight was my night for that.

I adore Maggie Lamond Simone’s writing.  She seems to always take exactly what I am thinking and say it in a way that is hilarious and poignant and touching all at once.  For any Mom or Dad who loves a child whose strengths  are also exactly what makes him a challenge, please check out her post:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/maggie-lamond-simone/loving-the-problem-child_b_1001376.html

From “Happy to Be Me” to Insecurity

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I was a big fan of Sesame Street as a kid and am a bigger fan now, as a Mom.  Check out how the show is approaching the problem of bullying with young children–focusing on prevention (where we have a prayer) rather than relying on intervention (where we constantly swim upstream).    LOVE it!

 

http://www.shapingyouth.org/?p=17182

Classic Passive Aggressive Behavior on Modern Family

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Next week, I am doing a training based on The Angry Smile for a group of professionals and parents in Newfoundland, CA. As I am going through my material, I couldn’t help but to dig back in the Modern Family archives and pick out this most classic example of passive aggressive behavior between Claire and her daughter. This is the show that keeps on giving.

http://www.hulu.com/embed/ZhvUZ-fm9aKLB3mabFr_IA/0/70

Sesame Street Takes on Bullying Among Young Kids

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I love that more and more of us are addressing bullying during early childhood, where these behaviors have their roots. Check out this great clip–the first in a series of five produced by Sesame Workshop:

[youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bycyRO0Vdfw]

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Signe Whitson is an author and educator on bullying, crisis intervention, and child and adolescent emotional and behavioral health. In her articles, books, and training workshops, Signe provides down-to-earth, practical advice for professionals and parents on navigating the daily challenges of living and working with children, tweens and teens.

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